Online dating is tough at the best of times – minimal matches, conversations going nowhere, bots – but especially when you’re older. This is because the dating pool is thinner and it is less common to find people your age using dating apps. But don’t lose hope. It is not impossible.
If you’re older and looking for love, we’ve rounded up the best free dating apps for seniors. Some of these apps specifically target older people, while others have a decent pool of older members. Whichever you choose, remember to stay safe and don’t get scammed by scammers.
1. Our time
OurTime is a service from the group behind Match, an established name with a wealth of experience in the online dating world. OurTime is special because it’s for singles over 50, designed to connect you with someone who shares your same interests and outlook on life.
Apart from text chat, OurTime also offers video call feature so that you can get to know the other person better. And if you ever get stuck, OurTime has tips on how to navigate the curious world of online dating.
Here’s your first tip: people aren’t always who they say they are online, so watch out for online dating scams.
To download: OurTime for Android | iOS (free, subscription available)
2. Silver Singles
SilverSingles is another dating service for the over 50s. When you sign up, you take a personality test to start building your profile. From there, SilverSingles matches you with compatible seniors in your area, with new matches served daily. It is focused on quality, not quantity.
If you’re feeling shy, you can send smiles and likes to indicate your interest. When you’re ready, use icebreakers to keep the conversation going. If that doesn’t work, you can browse other profiles besides your matches with the search feature.
To download: SilverSingles for Android | iOS (free, subscription available)
A long-standing name in the online dating world, eharmony has brought millions of people through its doors, many of whom have successfully found love. You create your profile through a compatibility quiz, which then builds a personality profile. When you meet your matches, you will see your compatibility score.
Although eharmony is intended for all adults, you can set your age preferences to only find other seniors. Once you find someone you like, you can chat with them via text or video.
To download: eharmony for Android | iOS (free, subscription available)
EliteSingles is owned by the same company as SilverSingles, so both apps work the same way. EliteSingles has a different proposition though, as it caters to educated singles over the age of 30. That doesn’t mean you can’t use it as a senior, since many of its members are older.
When creating your profile on EliteSingles, you can upload from your Facebook photos for your convenience. You get matches served daily, based on the results of a personality test. If you decide to pay, you will be able to see who likes you first.
To download: EliteSingles for Android | iOS (free, subscription available)
Match is a dating app for singles of all ages, including seniors. If you are looking for a serious relationship, Match is for you. It allows you to search for other singles online, regardless of your location; although you can apply whatever filters you desire.
Match not only encourages you to chat with others through its app, but it also hosts in-person singles events. You can enjoy a night out and maybe meet your future partner!
To download: Match for Android | iOS (free, subscription available)
6. Lots of fish
According to Plenty of Fish, singles have more conversations on its app than on any other dating app, so might as well give it a try. It is marketed as “adult dating”. Upload your photos, create the perfect profile, and search for those with common interests.
If you’re not sure how to start a conversation with a potential match (you can view matches and talk to them for free), Plenty of Fish lets you quote something from their profile to break the ice.
To download: Lots of fish for Android | iOS (free, subscription available)
7. Coffee meets bagel
Coffee Meets Bagel is one of the best Tinder alternatives because it’s everything Tinder isn’t. Rather than endless profiles, Coffee Meets Bagel presents a curated selection of matches based on your criteria.
With detailed profiles, you can find out important things like whether your compatible senior has kids and what they want from a relationship. Once you start chatting, you only have seven days before the match expires – this helps encourage meetings real, virtual (via an in-app video call) or in person.
To download: Coffee meets bagel for Android | iOS (free, subscription available)
8. Ok Cupid
OkCupid facilitates 195 million matches every year, across all age groups, so you have a good chance of finding a senior you have a meaningful connection with.
OkCupid cares about more than your photos. He is interested in your personality and your passions, and he allows you to meet other seniors based on these. No matter how you identify yourself, OkCupid welcomes you as you can set your sexual preference, gender pronouns, and more.
To download: OkCupid for Android | iOS (free, subscription available)
9. Facebook Dating
Chances are you already have a Facebook account. If so, you are ready to use Facebook Dating. You don’t even need a different app.
Your friends won’t know you’re using it, so you don’t need to adjust your Facebook privacy settings. It will match you with other people based on the groups you are a member of and the events you attend. Facebook membership is older, so you are bound to meet many other single seniors in your area.
To download: Facebook for Android | iOS (Free)
Perfect your online dating profile
Even if you download the perfect app, you’re not going to find love if your profile isn’t up to snuff. Make sure you have decent profile pictures, describe your passions in your bio, and don’t be afraid to take the first step.
If you decide to meet someone, do it in a public place and tell your friends in advance. Good luck!