ORLANDO, Florida., February 16, 2022 /PRNewswire-PRWeb/ — Central Florida Collagea Orlando Florida surety agency, is launching its new website blog titled “Romance Scams”. Hadi Khouriowner of Central Florida Bonding, says, “Scammers use dating sites, apps, and even social media to convince their victims that they’re in a romantic relationship. The scammer then preys on the victim’s vulnerability and asks for money, personal information, or gift cards. This is becoming more prevalent and people are falling for scams. The Covid-19 pandemic has been extremely difficult for people in the dating world since their way of meeting people was in bars and clubs across Central Florida. With closures and occupancy limits in most places, it’s been incredibly difficult for singles to meet other people, so people are vulnerable to these online scammers.”

According to the Federal Trade Commission, “Romance scams have nearly tripled in the past few years. In 2020 alone, victims lost $304 millionCentral Florida Bonding wants consumers to be aware of romance scams. Khouri explains “I often get asked what a romance scam is. This type of scam involves someone using a fake identity to convince another person that they are in a romantic relationship. The scammer then uses this fake relationship to persuade the victim to part with money or personal information. It can be extremely devastating for victims to find out they’ve been scammed when they really feel like the other person is in love with them.”

Romance scammers make many different claims to persuade their victims to part with money and sensitive information. Here are some examples :

• The scammers pretend to be far away and therefore cannot meet in person
• Scammers match their interest profiles with victims
• Scammers use gory stories such as needing money to pay a medical bill, gambling debt, or family emergency to convince victims to part with their money

Central Florida Bonding offers guidelines on how to stay safe from romance scammers. Here is an example of advice:

• Take it easy with an online relationship
• Avoid red flags such as not being able to meet in person or video chat
• Never send money to a stranger

For more information on romance scammers and their tactics, visit online at https://cfborlando.com/romance-scams/.

Central Florida Bonding offers bail for clients facing numerous charges, including theft, assault, assault, domestic violence, impaired driving, drug trafficking, and more. To start the bond process, call 407-841-3646. A bond agent is available to assist you with the bonding process 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.

All Central Florida Bonding surety agents are experienced and knowledgeable. They will lend an empathetic ear and are ready to help with the bonding process. Khouri adds, “Being arrested and placed in jail can be a frightening experience, especially for first-time offenders. Clients are confused and unsure of the proceedings or what will happen to them. Our bail officers can help. They can navigate in the ins and outs. exits from the bond process and provide valuable information to our customers. Our bail agents can help you with paperwork and answer questions about the criminal justice system.”

Central Florida Bonding is located at 2911 39th Street, Suite 300, Orlando Florida. Their office is located in Cox Plaza, minutes from Orange County 33rd Street Jail/Jail. Central Florida Bonding serves all Central Florida including Orange, Seminole, Osceola, Volusia, Brevardand Lake counties. This surety agency is licensed to post bonds throughout the state of Florida and with affiliated agencies across United States.

To learn more about Central Florida Bonding, visit online at https://cfborlando.com/ or call 407-841-3646.

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You could brave all sorts of horrors in the supernatural Victorian setting of Fallen London and Sunless Sea, but will you dare to face the greatest horror of all: love? Failbetter Games this week released a demo for Mask Of The Rose, a dating sim set in the same wonderful world.

Available now on Steam, the demo features “a condensed version” of the first act. You’ll go a few places, meet a few people, and meet at least one alarming person…well, I guess it could be a person, as far as our character knows?

Mask Of The Rose is set in the same world as Fallen London and the Sunless games, where Victorian London has been dragged deep underground into a vast cavern full of weird and wonderful things. While these games are set many years after the fall of London, with the new order well established and at least part of the world vaguely understood, Mask Of The Rose only begins 230 days after the fall. We play as someone who has a job doing a census for the love word of Mr. Pages, one of the mysterious Bazaar Masters who controls commerce in the city. From there, discovery, mystery, murder, friendship, maybe even romance?

I dig the demo, enough that I stop playing it because I’d rather enter the full game innocently and unknowingly.

Failbetter’s Blogblast also offered some updates on development progress. First, the game will not launch as expected. They estimated a June 2022 launch when they ran a Kickstarter (which hit its mark in a day), but now think it’ll be late October or November instead. That’s the usual reason: they want more time to get it right.

Failbetter explains, “As we progressed through pre-production, we realized the game would benefit from adding or expanding some features that we didn’t expect when we launched on Kickstarter.”

These include the ability for us to create stories about other characters, a more nuanced system for characters revealing emotions through poses and expressions, and deeper implications for our character customization, leading to “the ability to create player characters that have very different social styles”. behavior, whether it’s pleasant or sullen or whatever.” Please.

Alice Bee spoke with Failbetter last year about Mask Of The Rose, as well as the decisions not to make the Sunless Skies DLC.

For most of my life, dating apps have always been an aspect of the “dating world” that, to be quite honest, scared me to death but at the same time intrigued me more than something else. We hear all the nightmare scenarios: catfishing, bad breath, and horror stories your tutor tells you to make sure you don’t trust strangers and go on a date with them.

But nevertheless, going to college, where apparently everyone experiments in the world of relationships, the number of people I knew in my life who used dating apps skyrocketed. This news not only touched me: it completely shocked me.

How could someone go on a date without meeting the other person, strictly from photos and some text? What if the other person isn’t who you thought they were? Or, even worse, what happens if you don’t meet their expectations?

All of these questions went through my head every time a co-worker or friend told me about another Tinder or Hinge date they went on the other day. Eventually, it became something that worried me, while intriguing me more and more. A few months later, many of my friends were celebrating months with loved ones they had originally met online, some even from other cities.

So growing up hearing only horror stories – and now only hearing fairy tales – begs the question in my mind: are dating apps really that bad?

If you had asked me this question a few months ago, I would have said yes. Dating apps have a reputation for dating, and they put a lot of pressure on a person to paint the ideal image of themselves, and then execute that image perfectly. However, after hearing the good and the bad — and experimenting a bit with dating apps myself — I realized they’re not as bad as they seem.

Although the success of a dating app is entirely dependent on your location, it can help a person get known and stop overthinking things. Dating apps are simple: either they work or they don’t. There is no over-complication of anything and no worry about the consequences of the date as there is an understood ‘yes’ or ‘no’ rule. For many, this makes things so much easier. You can open up and meet new people without having to worry about seeing the person you’re dating the next day at work, which is what many of us need, especially in relationships.

So, okay, dating apps aren’t for everyone. They take some getting used to, and sometimes they hurt more than they help. However, on the plus side, they take the stress out of dating and amp up the excitement: something we all need from time to time.

Contact Isabelle Carreno at [email protected].

Like everything else, over the past decade the dating scene has grown dramatically. People can meet a wonderful lifelong friend on these platforms, without anyone stepping foot in the door. This is optimal for those who doubt themselves or lead a fairly hectic life. All of this has been facilitated by a wide variety of dating websites and apps in the modern digital world. There’s something for everyone these days, with everything from mainstream dating sites, LGBT platforms, standard dating sites, senior dating sites, or even cheat apps. Whether you’re looking for a special relationship, thrills, or maybe just a bit of silly fun, finding similar perfect individuals online will be easy.

The world is going through an uncertain phase where people are advised to maintain social distancing in order to stay healthy. This implies that physical meetings should be avoided as much as possible. With dating apps, you don’t have to go out to find your prince/princess charming. You can connect with like-minded people and have long conversations since you don’t want to go out right now. Once the pandemic has passed, you will be able to meet them in public and take care of the debates in the traditional way. Another option you have is to meet following all social distancing guidelines and get to know each other on a personal note.

A key factor that also contributes to the popularity of dating websites and apps is that people who lack confidence can interact with their swagger. Once you are able to establish a friendly relationship, you can meet in person and become more serious about the relationship. Women prefer these online platforms because they feel safe behind the app/website and they don’t need to meet someone they don’t find loyal enough. In fact, you can understand a lot about a person without meeting them, and you can ask them as many questions as you want. If you think your frequency won’t match, you can break up or continue your formal friendship, whichever works for you.

No matter what type of experience or person you’re looking for, you’ll find a dating website or app that can help you reach them. This implies that there are so many sites to suit all tastes, interests, and relationship goals. Another positive aspect of using these channels is that those with hectic lifestyles can meet each other. Many people who work overtime or have family obligations cannot go out frequently to chat, which limits the likelihood of getting to know people. That being said, these apps and websites make it easy to meet new people when it’s convenient for them, from your residence where you’re most comfortable.

People like online dating platforms because they can talk when they want and, more importantly, end the conversation when they don’t. You can easily convert these small talks into serious relationship talks and meet in person as you both build faith.

Wichita has a reputation for being a tough town for singles — at least, according to some very unscientific rankings. Here’s what a few young single Wichitans and a dating expert had to say about what modern dating really is.

“I think it’s tough to date. I think it’s tough to date anywhere. I think what makes it tough in Wichita is the fact that I don’t think we have, now we’re getting more community spaces where we’re allowed to interact with different people our age and be able to hang out with friends, but it could also spark a conversation with the table next to us because it’s a common table. There are more bars, more brasseries, all that, but we are so I think we missed a few years of space for people to meet.

I think every place has its own issues, though. The bigger the city, the harder it is sometimes to meet people. You tend to feel a bit more isolated. And I tend to find that we have a really nice community here in Wichita where everyone sort of knows each other if you show up at the same places over and over and over again. I think it’s really good and I think we need to enjoy it more.

Again, I’m part of a community that’s even a subset of a subset of a subset of a community, right? So, it’s like, ‘Oh yeah, I’ve gone through pretty much every gay available in town and there’s five left, so let’s shoot one more’, right? It’s very difficult, and I think a lot of people, especially in the LGBT community, feel pretty limited because, [like] I said, everyone knows everyone. I think it’s amplified even more in a small community. For the LGBT community, it’s quite difficult here, it’s quite limiting, and I think it’s an even bigger amplification of what the straight community is going through.”

“It’s really hard to get a date in Wichita. I have friends who are in the same boat as me and we keep finding guys who seem really great at first and then it just turns out to be one dud, and then we’re back to square one. You don’t have much to choose from in Wichita. It’s a big enough place that you don’t know everyone, but it’s also, if you are connected somehow you know everyone start meeting these guys and you may not know them but you know all their friends you have worked with their friends you have relationships…it’s like Kevin Bacon’s nine degrees of separation.

I’ve been living in other places temporarily, and I’ve been living in a foreign country and dating, which is pretty cool and interesting. I dated a guy for a while in Spain, but he was British. We met in a bar that we didn’t meet [on] the new Tinder thing, Bumble, which was pretty cool. Today, I feel like you have to meet people online before you meet them in a bar. I think we don’t know how to communicate with people in person anymore. It’s still there, obviously, but it’s quirky, it’s now that we’re on our phones and we’re texting each other and we’re Snapchatting each other and you’re messaging people on these dating apps.

It’s also hard, I think, because it’s the instant gratification of browsing profiles, like “Oh, she’s cute, he’s cute”… It’s like you can meet someone and that he might be awesome but in his back pocket he got thousands of girls they could hook up with immediately. I think it changed the way my generation dates people because they have everything right at their fingertips and they can immediately move on to someone else in a jiffy. They can just slide. They might slip and it’s all done and they’ve moved on and they’ve met someone else, and that scares me because it’s not authentic.

I feel like I have less stress in my life that I’m not on these dating apps. I mean, I have it on my phone and I’m looking at it, but I probably haven’t texted anyone in three months and I don’t feel like I’m missing anything. New year, new me, no new dating apps.”

“Every city, almost every city, thinks it’s the worst place. Wichita isn’t the only one. Wichita has a unique challenge and a lot of people I work with have confirmed that. It’s a big little town, or a little big city, whatever way you want to see it. And sometimes, “Oh, you’re dating Joe Bob? Well, Joe Bob went out with Nancy, who’s next door to my cousin’s dentist, or whatever. There’s this six degrees of separation that’s really reduced to two or three in a town this size. And I I’ve had a number of people say, ‘I just don’t want to date someone because either I know something about them or they’ll know something about me, and then things are a bit distorted to begin with.

I know there are a lot of women here who feel like they’ve exhausted this market in terms of what they’re looking for. And so I encourage them to maybe look a little more regionally, like Kansas City, or Tulsa, Oklahoma City, Denver, Chicago, etc. Unless you literally have kids you’re raising, or grandkids you’re raising, you know, the two best reasons to move are love or a great career.

A few years ago, a psychologist by the name of Barry Schwartz published this book called “The Paradox of Choice,” and it has a lot to do with how dating apps work. When we have the perception of having an abundance of choices available to us, we tend to not only be pickier and pickier, but we also tend to make choices that are ultimately less satisfying and which we are not as satisfied. Or we completely push back on making a choice, which means you slip and slip and slip and stay single.

One thing I would tell people on dating apps is first of all, you have to be on at least two to do it really well. If you only have one, you’re probably not really giving it the effort it deserves. Second, you should plan to stay there for six months or more. You can’t say you’ve made an honest effort until you’ve been there for six months or more.

Really, I would never say low expectations, but I would almost say some sort of release result. If your goal is to have fun, you can’t go wrong. This was my result when I got on Bumble. My bottom line is to meet nice people and have great conversations. I’ll probably get some good stories that I can use with my clients. I had no expectations of anything else. And that’s where the magic happened.”

“I think it’s probably horrible everywhere. I don’t know. I really don’t know. But my part of my problem is that I get really nervous when I talk to women. If I’m attracted to a person and my the brain shuts down and it’s like I can’t talk to my mouth anymore, you know.

I had Tinder and Bumble and Hinge, and I think I even had OK Cupid at one point just to see if there was something there. Certainly, in a city like Wichita, which looks like a big city, like a small, actually a small city, there are a lot of people in each of them. So you will see the same people on the other side.

It is very difficult to find someone to correspond with, especially especially in this small town. Since we are not such a big city, you quickly run through the available options. You’ll slide and he’ll say, “Oh, you’re all caught up.” Try again tomorrow.’ Maybe there will be two or three that you haven’t seen yet, which is a little disappointing too, I guess.

I never really dated on Tinder or Bumble or Hinge or anything. I’ve talked to a lot of women there, but it’s like, I don’t know, if I get too nervous to ask them out, or what’s really going on. I think once I get to that point, I’m like, ‘I don’t know if I really want to do this.’ And so I just ended our conversation – ghost. I ghost them, that’s the term.

I met my current girlfriend through Instagram, which is something new for me. I never thought I could do this before. But I think Instagram is cool because you can see a bit more who the person is whereas Tinder can only give you six photos to look at and a bit of a bio. I feel like Instagram or Facebook or social media in general can give you a deeper dive into the person, I think that may have helped.”

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I open the app in the wee hours of the morning, unable to fall asleep. I am immediately greeted by a man in his twenties in light denim and a camo hat, holding a large fish. Two miles away. A swipe left and a girl with warm brown eyes, wavy hair and… a boyfriend hanging around her shoulders. Ugh, swipe left. Swipe after swipe, everyone from familiar faces in bars to colleagues to close friends, everyone is looking for everything from a quick connection to true love.

The popularity of dating apps has skyrocketed in recent years, with the mother of all dating apps, Tinder, launched in 2012. The app, as of last year, has around 50 million users, according to TechCrunch. . Apps like Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge, Grindr, and Her offer a wide landscape for people to find people, some catering to specific groups, like LGBTQ people, or apps like Farmers Only or Christian Mingle.

According to the Pew Research Center, in 2016, nearly one in five young people aged 18 to 24 used dating apps. This shift in how young adults find love, or at least dating, has changed the dating game forever.

For some, dating apps have ended in real relationships. Malaika Kigen, a sophomore at the University of Iowa, used her old Tinder account to find her boyfriend of seven months, Nick. She downloaded both Bumble and Tinder in an effort to find someone to hang out with.

“We talked for two weeks — about everything,” she said. “We decided to go to B-Bops; it was a new place for us. We were both very shy, but I ended up talking all the time because that’s what I do. My friends came with, not with us, but they came to sit near us to make sure that I wasn’t going to be kidnapped, or murdered, or something like that. We ended up sitting there for four hours talking.

RELATED: The UI Game Explores Dating and Relationships in the Age of Technology.

Kigen and Nick started dating a month after the original date. She said the dating app has some advantages when it comes to social interaction.

“It might be easier to do online dating, because you don’t have to go out of your way to talk to someone and just say, ‘Hey,'” Kigen said. “Suing people in person is a little scarier. [Tinder] eases the playing field. It may be easier to get to know the person in person, however.

At the other end of the relationship spectrum, some people use dating apps only in casual settings, not to find serious relationships. UI junior Robby uses apps such as Tinder and Bumble occasionally.

“Tinder is for meeting new people with the idea whether it’s for romantic or sexual involvement.is lying. I don’t think I’ll use them for anything else,” he said. “I take Bumble more seriously – the girl has to respond, so if they took the time to respond to me, I’ll take it more seriously.”

Robby said that whenever he has downtime on a daily basis, he would open Tinder to see if he had any matches and to search for new potential matches.

“It’s good because you don’t really have that in-person anxiety that you feel,” he said. “You’re so lost at this point that the moment has passed. Because it’s over text, it’s easier to say what you want to say. I’m not very actively trying to tune into Tinder, but if I get the chance, I’ll jump on it.

A 2017 article in the Sociology Review titled “Liquid Love” argued that the design of Tinder is meant to take the stress out of dating and make it a type of game that doesn’t require a lot of time or investment.

“People [hook up], and it’s all good for them,” Kigen said. “What sucks is like being a ghost, when the person talks to you and stops. It mess with people’s self-esteem sometimes. Like, ‘What’s wrong with me, where are they gone?’ You showed interest, and so did they, and then they left, and you question yourself.

Karla Miller, a trauma therapist at the Iowa City Counseling Center and former director of the rape victim advocacy program, said while dating apps can help people find relationships that work, there can also be having a lot of issues with them when it comes to communicating the level of relationship the two individuals want to have.

“When you have someone who doesn’t have that goal [of a relationship], someone who just kind of jumps up, you can have a lot of shifts, a lot of hurt, a lot of disappointment,” she said. “People feel like they’ll never find anyone, or, ‘Someone doesn’t find me attractive enough, because why doesn’t someone date me more than a few times?’ ”

Miller pointed out that communicating relationship goals is important for users to avoid hurting each other, but that there can be broad communication issues on apps and online.

“You lose 85-95% of communication, which is non-verbal,” she said. “I think people think talking is the main form of communication, but it’s not, it’s the non-verbal stuff we do. When you can’t see that, you miss that’ is- what were they joking, were they crazy, what were they doing?’ and things like that.”

Additionally, at the onset of sexual relations, Miller said, there are two types of sexual relations, those simply initiated out of interest that remain primarily physical, and those in which individuals will have sex in order to create an intimate bond with another person. . This is where a lot of misunderstandings can take place.

“You have to talk about that stuff, likes and dislikes, and not just about sex,” she said. “If you have a question, ask it. “Are you interested or not? I think what stops people is the fear of rejection, of people saying no. But you want to know up front that you don’t want to not ask that question just because you don’t want to hear no.

Despite miscommunication, Miller said, part of the appeal of dating apps is the endorphin rush users can get.

“The start of a new relationship can be exciting, and all the chemicals that make you feel good are released. It can be very appealing and, for some people, very addictive,” she said. “But it can also go too far. If your happiness depends on how long it takes that person to answer you, that can be a problem. It’s like, ‘Oh my God, why didn’t they answer, that ‘does that mean?’ It could just mean that they are busy.

UI rookie Maya Penning said validation of getting new matches is a driving factor for using dating apps.

“[Dating apps] are super superficial now,” she said. “Like Tinder, I don’t think it should be under ‘dating apps’, I think it should be under ‘gaming apps’. It’s not even a dating app anymore. People just swiping and swiping; it’s for the satisfaction of getting matches and knowing you’re a valid person. You don’t message anyone; there’s no conversation.

Many dating apps work by allowing users to continuously browse profiles, swiping left for those that don’t interest you and right for those that interest you. These profiles may contain a lot of information about the user, but may only be a selection of photos.

“A lot of times I blindly swipe right-right-right, and I don’t even look at them. I just want to see if they’ll match up with me,” Penning said. “I was sliding really fast. There was this nice guy, he looked attractive, and so we matched. He was like, ‘Damn, you’re plump. You must have mixed blood in you. I was like, ‘Please don’t say that. You’re cute, but you’re not worth it. I knew people were racist, but I didn’t think they were so blatantly racist. I ended up not matching it, and I stopped doing swipe-sprees.

Penning said she would never have spoken to him if they had met organically.

UI sophomore Brandon Mainock, who has used Bumble, Tinder and OkCupid, said that while initial matches are based on physical attraction, there can be serious issues with that.

“I feel like that’s not honest. You can always use Photoshop, you can always manipulate photos to get your best angles every time,” he said. psyche. I see Tinder as a depressant for people. They see themselves as not good enough, they shrink. It’s a societal construct that I don’t think should exist. People don’t need to know they’re bad. It’s really hurting people’s pride.

Mainock said that due to the configuration of the system, people’s personalities can be overlooked and more emphasis is placed on physical appearance.

“It was, I think, my third dating match, and she was heavier than described and a bit shorter,” he said. “I didn’t really have a problem with that. I’m a very open minded person, I’m not going to sit down and judge someone on their physical appearance. But when physical appearance is presented as something different, physical appearance is meant to be sold as something else, that’s more of an ethical issue for me.

While some apps have verification systems to make sure users are the people in the photos they post, apps like Tinder don’t have it in place. While on the lighter side of things it can lead to parody narratives for fictional or historical characters, on the other end of the spectrum there can be consequences.

Miller advised users to exercise caution with apps because on those apps people can be who they say they are, making catfishing a risk.

“It’s a playground for predators. It is,” she said. “Someone who takes advantage of people or someone who has interpersonal problems can be out there doing whatever they want. As long as you can have a dating service that cares about safety first… that’s pretty important.

Miller advises users to notice any red flags that arise and investigate anything that is wrong. She also said that while dating apps are here to stay, they are not a replacement for in-person relationship building.

“It’s important to realize that this is not a substitute for face-to-face personal relationships based on trust, authenticity and compatibility,” she said. “It’s nice to meet people that way, and if that’s all you want to do, that’s cool, that’s fine. But I don’t think it replaces face-to-face. We’d really do well if people learned how to start a relationship, how to tell whether someone is trustworthy or not.

]]> https://rencontre-latina.com/dating-game-the-new-dating-rulebook/ Mon, 07 Jan 2019 08:00:00 +0000 https://rencontre-latina.com/dating-game-the-new-dating-rulebook/ By Anindita Paul

It is a good time to be single in India. With some of the world’s most popular dating apps making their presence felt on Indian shores, with societal norms moving away from binary relationships towards fluid ones and cohabitation gaining in popularity, especially in Indian metros, there is no shortage of reasons why single people can (or should ) take their time to dive deep in the dating pool and explore their options in depth. And yet, despite advances in technology, dating is never easy. For many, the prospect of wearing their heart on their sleeve every time they explore a new prospect or “match” can be daunting, if not downright terrifying. Here’s how you can play the new age dating game to win.

To hit

As a society, we’ve finally gotten to the point where dating apps are no longer viewed as tools for the desperate, but rather as an engaging avenue to meet new people. But how do you move the conversation beyond your first awkward hello? Do: “Statistically speaking, women are 2.5 times more likely to receive a response than men if they initiate the conversation. For their male counterparts, engaging in an interesting conversation is all the more crucial. potential match, comment on something specific you like. Limit your comment to around 140 characters. Try to commit to a specific photo or question. Even something as innocuous as “Pizza is the best food that exists” can be a great conversation starter,” says Melissa Hobley, CMO of OkCupid. Don’t: Saying “hey” in a first message is almost like saying nothing. completely overlooked, Hobley adds. Dating guru and author of The Ideal Pickup Artist Varun Mannava says, “As men, we need to learn to stop obsessing over looks. Realize that pretty s women are used, to the point of being upset, to being complimented on their looks. Refraining from doing what she expects of you can actually give you an edge and make you memorable.

The waiting game


Just about every other dating guide or wax manual speaks volumes about the importance of playing “hard to get”. The downside of this strategy is that it can easily be mistaken for indifference or disinterest. On the other hand, “responding too quickly, whether on a dating app, a text message, or a request on social media, can make you look like an overly impatient beaver, which normally tends to backfire. “, says Hobley.

To do: “If I’m interested in the person, I’ll usually respond fairly quickly, usually within 24 hours. If I’m still weighing my options, it could take a bit longer – between a few hours and a few days. However, beyond three days, that means I’m definitely not interested in continuing the connection,” says Rashida Khilawala, 31, a life coach.

Not : If someone you’re interested in doesn’t respond affirmatively to your requests to start a conversation, don’t try your luck on other social platforms, Khilawala says. “Many dating apps are synced with your other social profiles, which also makes it pretty easy for someone to follow you. on other social media platforms in hopes of catching my attention. However, this seems more desperate than well-intentioned, and it’s definitely not a good approach,” she shares.

Become social

Now that you’ve got them talking, does that automatically mean you’re eligible to be best friends on social media, too? Not necessarily, says Saranya Rai, author of Love, Take Two. “Random requests or invitations can seem a little scary, especially if you don’t have any friends or other backgrounds in common,” she says.

To do: “Social media connections only work when you connect with the other person as an individual, when there’s chemistry and/or mutual interest,” Rai explains. “Introspect why you want to follow someone on social media,” Mannava suggests. “If it’s to get to know them better, just ask to meet again in person. Don’t use social media as a crutch to stay in peripheral vision of your date. If she agreed to meet you once, chances are she will agree to meet you again. Ask her in person if you can follow her on social media — this simple step can go a long way to making you more charming to her,” he says. Khilawala also suggests making at least part of your social profile public so that the person you’re interested in can find out a bit more about you, before deciding whether or not to add you. “A fiercely private profile tells me very little about who the person is and, therefore, whether or not I will fit in with them,” she says.

Not : While most people will reluctantly admit to having stalked their crush online, suddenly “liking” a months-old photo can set off the stalker’s alarm bells. Rai adds, “While it’s easy to laugh at the occasional incident, having someone go through your entire profile and like every photo you’ve posted can feel strange and intimidating.”

sexy business

Waiting three dates may have been the norm in the past, but today couples are taking much longer (eight dates, according to a 2017 Groupon study) before they hit the sheets. “Dating in your 30s is slightly different when it comes to sex – you’re relatively more financially independent and also more secure and able to view sex from a more mature perspective,” says Khilawala.

To do: “Sex on your second or even first date doesn’t have to mean a one-night stand. In fact, today, whether or not you have sex with someone you’re attracted to is largely down to logistics – whether or not you have the place and time for it. Couples in their thirties are much more spontaneous in having sex once they are able to feel comfortable and trust each other,” says Khilawala.

Not : “If the end goal of dating for you is casual sex, it’s best to be upfront about it for the benefit of both partners. Don’t chain someone with the promise of a long-term relationship if you’re not as emotionally invested. At the same time, don’t use sex to keep someone hooked on you – eventually they’ll find other avenues and walk away,” says Akshay Dalvi, 28, a digital marketer.

planning date night

Cafes are cute and bars are nostalgic, but should they be your go-to options when planning dates?

To do: “There’s only so much you can express about yourself over a cup of coffee or a drink. When planning first dates, focus on your partner’s interests instead. Spend a day doing something they love – volunteering at a charity they’re interested in or playing with their pets are instant wins – to demonstrate that you care about him/her,” Mannava says.

Not : Nothing screams self-centeredness quite like asking your date for an activity that is completely at odds with their values ​​or way of life. “Theoretically, your sober date could still agree to visit a bar with you. Ask yourself, though, if that’s the kind of person you want to be,” Mannava adds.

go the distance

Now that you’ve found your “happy place” with your partner and want to take the relationship to the next level, how are you going to take the next step? “Proposing a long-term or even exclusive arrangement to your partner always involves some anxiety, as you never know if they are on the same page. This can be tricky as rejection at this stage can be heartbreaking,” says Rai.

To do: Dalvi suggests sharing some essential life experiences with your partner before you both can decide if your relationship is lasting or not. “A lot of what we present to our dates is us at our best behavior. I strongly recommend that partners travel together at least a few times, play a sport and take up a new activity together. Even in long-distance relationships, you might be content with online board games. Seeing various aspects of your partner’s personality, such as their ability to handle success and failure, as well as their adaptability and competitiveness, can help you make a more unbiased decision. Rai adds, “Overall, a relationship that lasts beyond six months is more than a fling and can certainly be viewed from a long-term perspective.”

Not : People will take their time deciding whether or not they see long-term potential in their relationship, and that can often be for reasons that go beyond the person they’re dating, Khilawala says. “Don’t try to push a person into something they’re not emotionally ready for. Give them time if they need it and be ready to walk away if you can’t agree with your partner on engagement,” she says.