Are they really as bad as everyone claims?

For most of my life, dating apps have always been an aspect of the “dating world” that, to be quite honest, scared me to death but at the same time intrigued me more than something else. We hear all the nightmare scenarios: catfishing, bad breath, and horror stories your tutor tells you to make sure you don’t trust strangers and go on a date with them.

But nevertheless, going to college, where apparently everyone experiments in the world of relationships, the number of people I knew in my life who used dating apps skyrocketed. This news not only touched me: it completely shocked me.

How could someone go on a date without meeting the other person, strictly from photos and some text? What if the other person isn’t who you thought they were? Or, even worse, what happens if you don’t meet their expectations?

All of these questions went through my head every time a co-worker or friend told me about another Tinder or Hinge date they went on the other day. Eventually, it became something that worried me, while intriguing me more and more. A few months later, many of my friends were celebrating months with loved ones they had originally met online, some even from other cities.

So growing up hearing only horror stories – and now only hearing fairy tales – begs the question in my mind: are dating apps really that bad?

If you had asked me this question a few months ago, I would have said yes. Dating apps have a reputation for dating, and they put a lot of pressure on a person to paint the ideal image of themselves, and then execute that image perfectly. However, after hearing the good and the bad — and experimenting a bit with dating apps myself — I realized they’re not as bad as they seem.

Although the success of a dating app is entirely dependent on your location, it can help a person get known and stop overthinking things. Dating apps are simple: either they work or they don’t. There is no over-complication of anything and no worry about the consequences of the date as there is an understood ‘yes’ or ‘no’ rule. For many, this makes things so much easier. You can open up and meet new people without having to worry about seeing the person you’re dating the next day at work, which is what many of us need, especially in relationships.

So, okay, dating apps aren’t for everyone. They take some getting used to, and sometimes they hurt more than they help. However, on the plus side, they take the stress out of dating and amp up the excitement: something we all need from time to time.

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